Texting a guy can be tricky, especially if you like him.
You want to keep the conversation going and make it enjoyable, but when do you know it’s time to throw the towel?
Here are a few signs that might help you figure out when to stop texting a guy:
1) He never texts you first.
The first thing you should think about is whether he ever texts you first.
- If he does, does he respond quickly?
- Does he seem interested?
If so, it might be worth staying around for a little while.
If a man doesn’t reply to your messages or takes too long to respond, it’s best not to waste time on him.
2) He doesn’t listen to what you’re saying.
When you’re texting a guy who doesn’t seem interested in what you have to say, it’s time to stop texting him.
Texting has given us a false sense of urgency about everything.
In our fast-paced society, it is frustrating if a conversation does not move along quickly.
But suppose you’re talking to a guy interested in what you’re saying.
If you feel comfortable with someone, don’t try to keep the conversation going. Let it flow.
You can still have a great time and get to know each other without worrying about how long it takes.
But if the person you’re talking to doesn’t seem interested, it’s time to rethink your strategy.
If your partner doesn’t make you feel valued and essential, it’s better to find someone else.
So if you’ve been sending texts and not getting any responses, it’s time to give up.
Don’t waste any more of your time with someone who doesn’t care about you.
3) He replies days later.
This is a tricky one because it depends on the guy.
If you get a quick response to your texts, it’s often a sign that they like the idea of hanging out with you.
If they don’t respond, you can take that as a sign of disinterest or a sign that something else is going on in their lives.
But if a guy responds days later? That’s when things get confusing.
It could mean he’s busy with work, school, etc., but it also might mean that he’s not interested in you.
After all, if he were really into you, would he make you wait days for a response?
So what can you do if this happens? Do some digging!
Ask him why he took so long to text back and see what excuse he gives you (if any).
Is it a genuine reason? Or does he seem like he’s making up an excuse to get out of seeing you again?
If the latter is true, then this isn’t someone worth pursuing!
4) He never asks to see you in person.
If you’ve been texting back and forth with a guy for a while, but he never asks to see you in person, it’s time to move on.
If he doesn’t seem to care about meeting up with you and never asks about it, there are two possibilities:
He’s not interested in you, or another girl has captured his attention.
In either case, there’s no reason to continue messaging this guy.
If you want to find out whether the guy is interested in meeting up with YOU, try sending him a direct message that says:
“I’m free on [date] at [time]; what do you think?”
5) After he gets what he wants, he disappears.
It’s a common misconception that men are always after one thing.
It’s true that some men only want to have fun, but plenty of others seek a deeper connection.
But if you’re not sure if the guy you’re texting is into you or wants to get in your pants, look out for these signs:
1) He disappears after getting what he wants.
If he’s after fun, he’ll disappear as soon as he gets it. This can happen even if it’s only been a few dates (especially if it was just one).
2) He disappears after getting what he wants (and then reappears).
This behavior is like the first scenario.
He disappears after getting what he wants from you and reappears when he needs more.
When you’re with a charming person, be sure not to give him everything he wants.
Those who reappear only when they need something from you do not value your relationship. They will use you when it is convenient for them.
6) Talking to him always leaves you feeling bad.
Sometimes, it’s a matter of time.
When you’re first getting to know someone, it’s easy to overlook qualities that would usually bother you.
You may also be more tolerant of his behavior because he is new to your life, and you want to give him a chance.
But, take note if you feel bad when talking to him.
You must avoid toxic relationships that can ruin your life at all costs.
If you’re wondering whether someone is toxic, here are some signs to look for:
- He makes you feel bad.
- He treats others poorly (especially those in a lower position than them).
- He is overly controlling.
- He puts you down in front of others.
- He’s constantly negative and drains the energy from a room.
- He is manipulative and plays mind games with people.
If you are in a relationship with someone who exhibits these signs, it’s time to let them go.
You deserve better than someone who puts you down and makes you feel bad about yourself.
Don’t worry about hurting their feelings; they won’t care about you. They will move on to their next victim.
7) He tells stories about people you know.
If you find that he is telling too many stories about people in your life and making you uncomfortable, it might be time to stop texting him.
But if his stories reveal an interest in getting to know your friends, that’s a sign that he’s trying to get closer to you.
8) He Talks about his Ex
If someone is always talking about their ex, it doesn’t mean they still have feelings for them. (even if it is not an intelligent thing to do).
They’re trying to process what happened and get through the pain of losing someone they loved.
They may have even broken up for years but still have trouble moving on.
Or it’s their personality type. Some people are more emotional than others! (Make Sure to see our personality types articles)
But if you are dating a man who talks about his ex-girlfriends in a negative light, you should be concerned.
People who often blame others for problems are not mature. They look to other people for approval of their bad behavior.
Suppose your boyfriend constantly talks about his ex-girlfriends and how they treated him.
If so, he may have problems with women in general that could affect your relationship.
9) If he’s stopped texting you.
When a guy stops texting you, it could mean:
- He’s not interested anymore (and is losing interest),
- Or he’s waiting for you to text him first.
If he’s not interested anymore, there’s no point in sending him a follow-up message.
He’s gone, and there’s nothing left to do but move on.
If he doesn’t text you back, don’t take it personally, and try not to overthink things.
If he doesn’t respond after a few days, assume that he isn’t interested and move on with your life.
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10) His texts do not make your heart race.
If you’re indifferent to him or feel no butterflies in your stomach when he reaches out, that’s a clue.
When this happens, you must pay attention to the problem.
You should talk to him about it!
Communication is critical in any relationship, especially when both parties are texting each other back and forth (or at least one party is!).
If you’re not excited about getting back to him, it might be time to cut off all contact.
If you’ve been talking to a guy for a while and your heart doesn’t race when he texts you, it’s time to stop texting him.
11) If you’re doing all the work.
You’ve been messaging back and forth for a few weeks, and you feel he might be interested in you.
You’ve sent him some flirtatious texts, and he responded with similar ones.
You thought the spark was there!
But then, when it comes time for him to make a move like asking you out or making plans to hang out, he doesn’t do anything.
He doesn’t even respond. You send a follow-up text, but he doesn’t answer that one either!
- What are you supposed to do?
- Why should you continue pursuing him if he doesn’t want to pursue a relationship with you?
It’s only worth your time if this guy is going to make an effort.
12) He is not fully present when you’re together.
If he seems distracted by his watch or phone, it could mean he’s not listening to what you’re saying.
It also means he isn’t paying attention to your body language and facial expressions.
That can be frustrating and even hurtful!
If he’s not giving you all his attention and taking the time to get to know you.
The best way for him to learn about you is by asking questions and showing interest in your life.
If he isn’t interested in getting to know you better, he probably isn’t asking you any questions.
13) You’re tired of listening to his excuses.
If he always has an excuse for not doing something, it’s time to move on.
If he is making excuses for why you can’t meet up or spend time together, then he isn’t interested in being with you.
You don’t need a guy who doesn’t want what you do. You deserve someone who does.
14) He tells you to stop.
If a guy tells you to stop texting him, it’s the right thing to do.
You might wonder if he’s trying to tell you something without actually saying it.
He may feel guilty about seeing other people and is afraid that he will upset you if he ends the conversation.
Instead of dealing with his emotions, he avoids difficult situations.
If he tells you to stop texting him, then it’s time for you to do so. You don’t need a guy who is afraid to talk about his feelings or deal with them.
15) He’s talking to other girls on dating apps or sites.
If a guy is talking to other girls on dating apps or sites, then he’s not interested in you.
He may be looking for something casual or just trying to see what else is out there.
If he’s doing this while texting you, then it’s time for him to go.
You don’t need a guy who isn’t committed to one person.